The start of a new relationship is always an exciting thing. Between the butterflies and the late night talks, it’s a time full of new experiences, adventures, and feelings. Everything is perfect and you think you have finally found the one.
While a majority of relationships start off picture perfect, they all almost always hit a few speed bumps along the way. Whether those bumps happen at the very beginning, the middle, or cause the relationship in question to end, it ultimately depends on the couple and how well they communicate with each other.
Sometimes, however, these little speed bumps turn into big problems. The best way to make sure this doesn’t happen is to talk to your new boo as soon as they come up. Problems are best fixed right away so no one is left with lingering thoughts, ideas, or doubts.
If your new man is showing any of the signs below, then you need to talk with him right away to see where his head is at. You need to make sure he is also ready to settle down, or if it’s time to cut him loose.
Here are 5 signs to never ignore in new relationships:
He won’t introduce you to his friends.
He’s met your best friends, roommates, and maybe even your siblings, but whenever you suggest hanging out with his friends, he gets defensive and has an excuse ready for you. You know he has friends because you’ve seen them on his social media accounts. Maybe he thinks introducing you to them makes your relationship official or a long-term thing. Maybe he hasn’t even mentioned you to his friends because he wants to stay single in their eyes (and who knows who else’s for that matter). If you find yourself having this fight with your man, you need to confront him about it sooner rather than later.
He’s shady about his past.
You’ve told him all your secrets, everything from your first time to stories about your exes. When it came time for him to tell you about his past, he raced through it, or maybe even dodged it completely. He briefly mentioned his exes and hardly talked about his family or childhood memories. Even after the talk, he says next to nothing about his family. Maybe he doesn’t trust you enough to open up about his life, or maybe he’s hiding something. Both of these should set off big red flags for you.
Instead of going full-on FBI on him, it’s best to just ask him about it. If he still won’t be straight with you, it’s time to take action. Maybe you can look into his past on your own by running a background check on him. This will give you all the details on his family, any criminal records, educational background, and so much more.
He is emotionally attached to his phone, especially around you.
At some point in the day, we are all glued to our phones. But what about going out on a date with a guy who can’t take a break from texting? That’s a definite no. When this happens, he is showing you that he doesn’t value your time together and that whatever is on his phone is more important. What or who could be more important than your date? It probably isn’t his mom or his friends… and you know it’s not you. Be careful if you ever find yourself in such a situation.
He constantly messes up small details about you.
What do you do when after countless long talks he still can’t seem to remember what college you went to or what your favorite sports team is? It’s either he doesn’t listen when you are talking to him, he straight up doesn’t care, or worse—he’s mixing you up with other girls he’s talking to. When this happens you might want to run his phone number through a reverse phone search to see exactly who it is he’s talking to.
He always brings up his “crazy” exes.
Sure everyone has a past. Everyone has that one person they used to date that they wished never existed. When a guy revels in trashing the people he used to date, he’s showing you that he lacks respect for women that, at one point in time, probably meant the world to him. Don’t forget that you, too, could one day find yourself in this category. And don’t forget what the one thing all these “crazy” chicks seem to have in common? They dated him. He’s the common factor. So either he’s really misrepresenting these people, or he was incredibly skilled at pushing their buttons. None of which is good for the future of your relationship.